April 2017 - Hayley's Blog

Monday, 17 April 2017

5 Problems With Social Media

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5 Problems With Social Media
Hi everyone.
I'm currently having a break from uploading YouTube videos while I wait for a creative wave of inspiration to hit me. I only like to put out content on my YouTube channel and blog which I feel good about posting.
I've been thinking and reflecting about social media. I wanted to share 5 problems which I currently have with social media.
Let's begin with....
1. Life Isn't What It Appears To Be
People might look like they are having a better life than you on their social media channels. But this is not true.
We are all human and we all have problems which we struggle with. No matter how someone's life looks on social media behind the computer screen it could be a different story. Never judge a book by it's cover. I never want to be dishonest and tell you that my life is perfect. It's not true. I have good and bad days like everyone else.
2. Lack Of Patience
Social media doesn't teach us patience because it shows us instant news and results. The truth is that it takes time to focus on your goals in life and to work towards them.
When I first joined YouTube back in 2014 I was naive in thinking that it was so easy to make this hobby into a part of my career because it looked like it would bring instant results. I was wrong.
I've learnt that you have to have patience and persistence to make your dreams a reality. I work at my goals a bit each day and it's important to appreciate the small steps and milestones. When I look at successful people I see how hard they have worked for that success and it inspires me to keep going and not to give up just yet.
3. Oversharing
It's getting more common to share our life on the internet. But how much is too much? Let me know your thoughts in the comments below.
I think it’s great to share experiences because it creates a connection between people.
I've personally found it really helpful when people make videos talking about life experiences they have been through especially If I'm going through the same thing because I feel comforted and less alone.
Be responsible about who you share with and what you share. The internet as a giant space where people of all sorts roam. If this space was a real place, would you trust everyone with all your secrets and personal information? I wouldn't. 
Don't feel pressured to say what everyone else is sharing. It's important that you are aware of what you put out there. Do what feels right for you. That's what i do :)
4. Social Isolation
Social media sites help us to feel connected worldwide. But actually, it makes me feel very disconnected sometimes. Take a look around you when you are in a public place. Most likely, the majority of people you see are bent forwards towards the glow of their phones. I think it's important to learn how to deal with free time without staring at a screen. With less screen time, you will have more opportunity to learn how to relax, enjoy leisure time and communicate with people.
When I have been stuck to a phone, tablet or computer screen for too long. I've experienced feelings of loneliness when i've turned a device off. It's important to have breaks and to phone a friend or hang out with someone.
I joined a social group in January to make new friends. Social groups are great as noone hardly has their phone out and everyone wants to chat and get to know eachother. It's very refreshing and I plan to to go to more meets up this year.
I've also been really enjoying talking to and spending time with the blogging community and attending events. I've been to quite a few this year. Snizl4Notts, Chino Latino, Bloggers Brunch, Nottingham Fashion Week and Intu Victoria Spring/Summer style event.

5. Bullying
Bullying is one of the most serious problems with social media. When someone uses social blogs or virtually any space for hurtful speech or hate it causes a damaging effect. Bullys do not seem to realise that there is a person behind a screen. Anything which you say or put out on the internet has a effect.
What do you think the problems are with social media? Let me know in the comments below.

Bunny Hugs,

Monday, 10 April 2017

Girl Power Networking Pop-Up & T-Shirt Launch

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Girl Power Networking Pop-Up & T-Shirt Launch
Hi everyone:)
Thrift Generation would like to invite you to their Girl Power Networking Pop-Up & T-Shirt Launch  on the 22nd April 3pm-6pm in Nottingham. This a FREE event and the point of this is to support women and girls too, whether in business or in general. It's a great opportunity to network. I shall be attending the event and filming for my YouTube channel. Please come and say Hello!
More information can be found on the events Facebook page below.
Madi Wallner is the founder of the label Thrift Generation is currently preparing a launch to promote the first line of T-shirts with a Girl Power theme. I am excited as I am a plus size woman who thinks that it's important to celebrate all different shapes and sizes.
Madi's collection is inspired by the world wide famous Playboy bunny icon. She is reclaiming this icon and using it in a different way which is not to judge on image or the body alone.
We are more than just a body and a pretty face. It’s our minds and how we use them and it’s the actions and words we use and what we speak out for
Thrift Generation currently selling here:

Thrift Generation's social media 

I'm looking forward to seeing you there.

Bunny Hugs,


Thursday, 6 April 2017

When Life Doesn't Turn Out How You Expect

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When Life Doesn't Turn Out How You Expect
Hi, everyone.

This afternoon I had a little browse around my local town and had a look inside some charity shops. I enjoy shopping at charity shops because who knows what bargains you might find and the money is going towards a great cause.

A hanging wall plaque caught my eye on one of the shelves which said
This sign made me deeply reflect on my life and where i am now at 29 years old and I wanted to share my thoughts with you.
Me aged 16 at prom 2004
When I was 16 and leaving school I thought that I would have everything figured out by my late 20s.
Well here i am and I don't have any figured out. Haha. I'm laughing because it feels amazing to admit it.
Every goal is still achieveable which I have in my mind but I do get very frustrated about where I want to be. I have to remind myself that achieving goals and reaching mile stones takes hardwork and time.
I think it's fascinating how much expectation society puts on us and also the pressure that we put on ourselves.
It's OK not to have your life figured out. I think that a lot of people feel that way but they don't admit it on social media. Perhaps they are scared of looking weak or vulnerable. I'm strong and proud to say it.
Perhaps everything in my life which has happened to me is to help someone who is reading this blog post to know that they aren't alone.
It's important that you aren't hard on yourself and that we all should enjoy the flow of life for what it is. We can't control of what happens to us but we can control only how we react and respond to it.
Social media can make us question what we are doing with our life as we are provided with instant access to what's going on with everyone elses life and it may seem everyone is having a better time than you are. This is not always the case.
I think that social media is similar to a showreel because it highlights all of the best parts of yourself and life (depending on what you decide to share of course).
I used to wonder if I had gone wrong in my life somewhere and ask questions like "Should I of stayed in that relationship with that ex boyfriend?" "Should I tried harder at University?" "Would my life of been any better?"
Well I don't honestly know but all i do know is that I have always done my best and listened to my heart in whatever situation i've found myself in. No point worrying and wondering about "what if". I'm excited about the future and what's ahead.
So perhaps my life hasn't turned out the way that i expected but perhaps it's because something fantastic is on the way.

Bunny Hugs,

Monday, 3 April 2017

Spring Fair In Beeston

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Spring Fair In Beeston
Hi everyone
On Sunday 2nd April i visited Beeston Fields Golf Club in Nottingham. The free event was organised by Fabulous Spaces and it was on from 10am until 4pm. The venue was The Walled Gardens inside a huge beautiful white tent which usually hosts weddings and special occassions. 
They were selling their hand craft produce such as jewellery, bags, food, clothing and photography packages for weddings.
A selection of stall holders include
  • Bluebell Dairy Ice Cream
  • Spondon Bakery
  • The Greenery
  • Carolyn Clare Jewellery
  • Winning Works Slate and Wood
  • Sophisticakes Patisserie
  • Florence & Bow
  • Big Green Tree.
  • Bowbeaus
  • Lunar Moth Jewellery
  • Sundial Style
  • Brocklebys Pies
  • All things pretty 
  • Selena's Contemporary Flowers
  • Azorieblue Barista Coffee
  • Yummy Little Cakes
  •  Rubylou's Treat Co
  • Paper Cotton
  • The Walled Garden
  • Beeston Fields
  • Meltworks 
  • Usborne Books
  • Tattered Rose
  • Strawberry Kitchen Bakery
  • Silver Spoon By Gilly
  • All Mine Cakes
  • Polly and Me
  • Mon Amie.
Watch my video below :)

What did you get up too this weekend?
Let me know in the comments below:)
Bunny Hugs,